by Edie Melson @EdieMelson
One of the most frustrating things for me when I’m
approached by folks who want write is the litany of excuses that come up. I
know, they’re not excuses, they’re reasons.
Poppycock!
I don’t care what you call them, we all have them. We all
have legitimate reasons not to do something. We’re all insanely busy—maybe not
all in the same way—but trust me, we are equally bound up with to-do lists.
In case you think I’m being callous and unfeeling, let me
assure you I’ve let these things keep me from writing. And one thing I’ve
discovered is this—they’re not even reasons—they’re choices.
Each of us has the same amount of time each day. Within each
day we set our priorities. We decide where to spend our time. Sure there is
some time that’s non-negotiable for everyone—eating, sleeping, for some
working, for others being a parent.
But we all have, what I like to call, disposable time. See
if any of these strike a nerve:
- It’s that time when we choose to sleep in an extra 30 minutes instead of get up and write.
- It’s that time when we choose to stay up late instead of getting the sleep we need so we can get up 30 minutes early and write.
- It’s that time when we decide that closet needs cleaning out before we can get started.
- It’s that time when we choose lunch with a friend over writing.
- It’s that time when we watch TV instead of writing.
- It’s that time when we waste 30 minutes texting with a friend, rather than writing.
- It’s even the time when we decide we just don’t feel like writing.
The list goes on and on and on and on… We writers are a
creative bunch, especially when it comes to manufacturing reasons not to write.
Following your dream takes sacrifice. It means treating your
dream like it matters. Because it does! After all, how can you expect your
family and friends to take you seriously if you don’t take yourself seriously.
Here’s an exercise to help you weed out those excuses that
plague us all:
1. Make a list of all the things you HAVE to do. (Make sure
they are truly have-tos, not should or want-tos. Those need to be weeded out.
For example, I originally had vacuum the house weekly on my list. But I’ve
learned that’s a should, not a have-to. Vacuuming every two weeks or delegating
it to a family member works just as well.
2. Now make a list of things you’re willing to give up.
3. Now set a goal. I recommend you make it a weekly goal,
instead of a daily one. That way when life happens (someone gets sick, the car
dies, etc.) you have a little bit of grace time built in. The goal can be
anything you want; a word count, a time goal, even a project goal. But write it
down and put it someplace prominent. Make sure your family can see it as well
as you.
4. Finally, share your goals with another writer. If you want, share
it here.
Here’s the opportunity to pony up. If you're willing to make the time to write, leave a comment below, along with your goal, if you'd like. Then we'll hold each other accountable!
Don't forget to join the conversation!
Blessings,
Edie
TWEETABLES
Oh, there comes the comment box. I sent Edie an email of my goals. Here there are: Yes, I have a million excuses for not writing! So I would like to write 2000 words a week. They may go out on my blog or they may be writing my life story.
ReplyDeleteI also will contact my person to create the link in my blog to allow people to follow me by July 12th.
This all starts today, July 10th, 2014.
Thank you, Edie!
Sharon Paavola
Sharon, BRAVO!!!! Thank you for being brave enough to go first! Blessings to you, E
DeleteWrite a minimum of 500 words per day. For me setting a specific word goal works better than blocking off a specific amount of time.
ReplyDeleteJoan, that's GREAT! But let me suggest a slight tweak to your goal. If you want to write 500 per day, 5 days a week, make your goal 500 words per day, 4 days a week. That gives you one makeup day and makes it more likely you'll make and exceed your goal! Blessings, E
DeleteYou guys rock! Here's my goal, I'm rewriting/editing 10,000 words a week. This is in addition to blogging and regular work. I'm trying to make it 2000 words per day, 5 days a week. This gives me the weekend. Joan, you can use this method as well. I prefer to set goals for 4 days a week, but I'm on a tight deadline and you may be too. Blessings to you all! E
ReplyDeleteMy critique partner and I have set a goal of turning in two chapters for review on Mondays and Thursdays. My personal goal is to rewrite/edit at least one chapter a day up to 3000 words, 5 days a week. But I like your philosophy of giving myself at least one day for makeup writing because, yes, life does get in the way.
ReplyDeleteNakeliwalters, those are really good goals! thanks for sharing, Blessings, E
DeleteWow, this makes my head dizzy. Actually set goals? Well, I do stuff every day FOR my writing, I'm just such a --horrible procrastinator. I've been critiquing on other people's work and only submitted ONE chapter of my ms. :( I could actually submit 10 chapters with the amount I've critiqued). I think I'm in denial? So, submit more chapters and post more on my blog. Also check into self-publishing some of my inpirational posts. That should do for today. LOL Thanks, Edie. Blessings back to you. ;)
ReplyDeleteDonevy, procrastinators are often masking fear and insecurity by avoiding submitting. I know because i used that for a long time. It can also come from being a perfectionist, another issue I struggle with. try setting a small goal, it can be very freeing when you put your work out there. Blessings, E
DeleteEdie, I have read that before, and in this area I know it's true for me. As long as it sits in my to do bin I don't have to face criticism. Scarlet used to be my middle name, now it's moving into my first name--'I'll think about it tomorrow'. LOL Enjoy your posts, Edie--I've even made a file for just your writing. ;)
ReplyDeleteYou're the best! Hugs, E
DeleteVery good, Edie. I set goals and then something happens and I get behind. I like the 4 days a week goal. I'll start doing just that. This morning I've had other things to do, so I'll have to work double time this afternoon, or take the slack up tomorrow. If I know I have to do it, I'll work harder. I like deadlines. I have to set them for myself, and the vacuuming? Once a month is fine for me. I only have one room and a rug.
ReplyDeleteKathy, I was resistant to setting goals when I started. But just a couple of times of meeting goals was addictive—as was the increased productivity! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, Blessings, E
DeleteThis is so true, Edie! It is much easier to dream of writing than actually do it. Thanks for challenging me today to be more diligent.
ReplyDeleteMichelle, you are one of my heroes. I thought of you and all you have to deal with in your busy life while I was writing this. No matter what life throws at you, you still keep your writing a priority. Thanks for stopping by, Blessings, E
DeleteI'm starting my new list today of the things I HAVE to do, what I'm willing to give up, setting weekly goals and sharing them with a close writer friend. Thanks for all your wonderful educational posts!
ReplyDeleteTerri, I'm so glad I've been able to help. Keep up the good work! Blessings, E
DeleteEdie, I'm guilty of this, especially in dealing with the ups and downs of care giving that seem to take up a good bit of my time. Still, I can find make time to work on my writing. I'm going to commit to 2,500 words a week.
ReplyDeleteDiana, good for you! You do have a tough row to hoe (one of my grandmother's favorite sayings). I applaud your diligence and discipline. Blessings, E
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