Setting Boundaries as a Writer: How to Protect Your Creative Time

From Edie: Tired of interruptions and dismissive comments? Learn how to set boundaries, protect your writing time, and gain respect as a serious writer.

Setting Boundaries as a Writer: How to Protect Your Creative Time

by Edie Melson @EdieMelson

“Nobody takes me seriously as a writer.”

“My family doesn’t respect my writing time.”

“They think I just sit around all day.”

If you’ve ever thought (or said) one of these things, you’re not alone.

Every writer eventually faces this struggle — especially those who write from home.

Friends and family don’t always understand that writing is real work, even when it looks like staring at a screen. They call during your writing hours, drop by unexpectedly, and make comments like:

“You can do that later — you’re home all day.”

“It’s not like you have a real job.”

“Why are you so serious about it? It’s just a hobby!”

Sound familiar? Let’s talk about how to change it.

Why People Don’t Take Your Writing Time Seriously

For many, work only counts if it happens offsite or brings in a paycheck.

The idea that creative work can happen in a home office, at a coffee shop, or late at night feels foreign to them.

Since the pandemic, work-from-home culture has blurred boundaries even further. People assume you’re available unless you teach them otherwise.

I’ve worked from home for more than a twenty-five years — often sharing an office with my husband — and I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way) that you must train people to take your writing time seriously.

Here’s how to train people to take your writing time seriously

1. Keep Regular Hours (Even If They’re Unusual)

Consistency builds credibility. Whether you write before sunrise, after the kids go to bed, or during your lunch hour — make it a habit.

When others see that you show up faithfully, they begin to recognize your writing as part of your routine — not a whim.

Pro Tip: Set a recurring calendar reminder for “Writing Time.” Treat it like an unbreakable appointment.

2. Treat Writing Like a Job — Because It Is

If you treat your writing casually, others will too.

When you regularly skip your writing time for errands, scrolling, or lunch dates, people assume writing can always wait. But when they see you prioritize it, they’ll start to mirror that respect.

You teach people how to value your writing by the way you value it yourself.

3. Be Consistent with Boundaries

If you don’t answer the phone during your writing hours, stick to it — even when it’s someone you love.

Inconsistency breeds confusion. If you’re firm but fair about your boundaries, others will eventually learn that this time is non-negotiable.

“Consistency communicates value. People will respect what you consistently protect.”

4. Turn Critics into Cheerleaders

Instead of seeing your family as obstacles, invite them to become allies.

Share your writing goals. Explain your deadlines. Ask for their help.

When people understand what you’re trying to accomplish, they’re more likely to protect your writing time instead of interrupting it.

Example:

“I’m working toward finishing my novel by June. Would you help me guard my morning writing hours?”

When you include them in your mission, they’ll feel invested in your success.

5. Celebrate Your Wins Together

When you hit a milestone — finish a draft, land an article, or reach a word-count goal — let your people celebrate with you.

Connecting the joy of accomplishment to your time commitment helps them see how meaningful this work truly is.

Gratitude turns success into testimony. Celebrate God’s faithfulness as much as your achievement.

6. Expect Some People Not to Understand

Even with clear boundaries, some folks just won’t get it.

That’s okay. People who’ve never pursued creative work often underestimate its difficulty. Expect the skepticism, smile politely, and keep writing.

You don’t need universal approval to walk in your calling.

7. Remember Why You Write

When discouragement creeps in, return to your why.

You’re not writing for applause. You’re writing because God placed words in your heart to share.

Protecting that time isn’t selfish — it’s obedience.

“Protecting your writing time isn’t selfish. It’s faithfulness to the call God placed on your life.”

Final Thoughts

Respect doesn’t come automatically — it’s earned through consistency, clarity, and conviction.

Show up. Communicate kindly but firmly. Celebrate what God allows you to create.

Your writing matters.

And so does the time it takes to do it well.

How do you help your family and friends respect your writing time?

Share your thoughts in the comments — your insight might help another writer find their rhythm.

Don't forget to join the conversation!

Blessings, 

Edie

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Edie uses the truths God has taught her as an author, photographer, and blogger to encourage others. She’s learned to embrace the ultimate contradiction of being an organized creative. As a sought-after speaker, she’s empowered and challenged audiences across the country and around the world. Her numerous books reflect her passion to help others call on God’s strength during challenging times, often using creativity to empower this connection. She also knows the necessity of Soul Care and leads retreats, conferences, and workshops on ways to use creativity to help strengthen our connection with God. 

She and husband Kirk have been married 43+ years with three grown sons and four grandchildren. They live in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains and can often be found with their big black dog hiking the mountains.