Take the Risk—Write the Story: Overcoming Fear and Rejection as a Writer

From Edie: Henry McLaughlin know writing takes courage. He shares how writers can overcome fear, rejection, critique, and self-doubt to grow in their craft and confidently tell the stories they were meant to write.

Take the Risk—Write the Story: Overcoming Fear and Rejection as a Writer

by Henry McLaughlin @RiverBendSagas

Writing is risky. And not just in the sense of facing physical danger. Although I’m sure many writers did face physical danger at one time that stimulated or inspired them to write their story.

There are other risks every writer faces. More mundane than climbing Mt. Everest, but just as real. The underlying source of these risks is fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of failing.

First, there is the risk of writing the book. Am I capable of writing a book? Can I even write? We risk ridicule from family and friends who think they know us better than we know ourselves. 

As we sit to write, maybe the words of our high school English teacher come to mind: “I gave this essay an F because the school won’t let me grade any lower. I suggest looking into a career as an auto mechanic. You’ll never make it as a writer of anything beyond grocery lists.” Or words to that effect. The sound you heard was the crashing of a dream to dust, or a tornado ripping the house of your confidence from its foundation and scattering it beyond recovery.

When I started writing, I was working fulltime at a ministry. One of the leaders, when he heard I was writing, said I couldn’t be a writer because I wasn’t published. Obviously a non-writer. 

As your fingers hover over the keyboard, maybe a memory resurrects of being cut from the baseball team and the coach made it clear it was because you don’t have what it takes.

Let me say this right here: if you want to write, you have what it takes. It needs to be developed and refined. We can learn the craft of writing. What we need is the discipline to write and the courage to seek help to learn so we can make our story better.

The Critique Group

For many of us, the next huge risk is taking our work to a critique group. Maybe our story is finished. Maybe we’ve reached the point where we want feedback on how we’re doing and where we need to go from here. So, we join a critique group. 

Here we face the risk of rejection from other writers. We’re rookies moving into the realm of professionals. Some may be published. Others may be much further down the road than we are. Unfortunately, a rare few may be prima donnas who think they know all there is to know about writing and you simply need to write like they do. 

This is a risk we must take to grow as writers even though we face the risk of rejection, of embarrassment, of failing in front of a community we desperately want to be a part of. 

The critique group is where we learn to assess more than our writing. We also learn to discern valuable feedback from not so valuable feedback. Biblically, we learn to separate the wheat of feedback that helps from the chaff of feedback that doesn’t. And this takes a while to learn. 

We may not click with our first critique group. Personalities and styles can rub the wrong way. We may test several groups before finding the best one for us. And it’s not the one that always praises our writing. We need a group that challenges us to grow and take chances. 

How to Edit

We’ve finished our manuscript. By this I mean we’ve written the equivalent of two drafts. Our first draft and then revisions we made with feedback from our critique group. Now what?

We have options. We can edit it ourselves. It is possible and feasible to edit ourselves. Our approach needs to be as an editor, not an author. We need to shift from right brain to left brain. There are resources available. Two I recommend are Self-Editing for Fiction Writers by Browne and King. The other is Revision and Self-Editing for Publication by James Scott Bell. There are also blogs about self-editing in The Write Conversation archives. 

Another risk here is doing it on our own or paying a freelance editor to do it for us. I recommend both. Do it yourself first to get it the best it can possibly be. Now you’re at your third draft, if not further.

Next, consider hiring an outside editor. Why? Because our manuscript is not the best it could be. It needs more edits and rewrites. My first published novel had eight drafts before it won its contest. Then we had two more edits with the publisher before it was released.

Or maybe we decide to self-publish. That’s great. But then we a professional editor is crucial. And a cover designer along with other professionals to help make a quality product. But that’s a subject for another blog. Because this one is already long enough.

What are some of the risks you’ve taken in your writing? What lessons did you learn? Would you do it again?

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Henry’s debut novel, Journey to Riverbend, won the 2009 Operation First Novel contest. Henry edits novels, leads critique groups, and teaches at conferences and workshops. He enjoys mentoring and coaching individual writers.

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