Friday, December 14, 2012

Life Lessons—Change is Good...You Go First

by Reba J. Hoffman, Ph.D

I’m one of those strange individuals who enjoys change, most likely because I am very easily bored. I quickly tire of one thing and am eager to move on to the next great adventure.

That being said, I’m not always comfortable with the process of transitioning from one thing to the other. In fact, I’ve never met a person who absolutely loves the process of change. That’s why most people resist it. It’s unknown, frightening and potentially painful.

Writers are faced with change at every turn and sometimes it’s not easy to face. There is risk involved. You could fail. In fact, you most likely will fail. Change is also very hard work. That’s why most writers resist it even if they know it will have a positive result for them personally.

Here are a few things you can do that will help you conquer that big “C” in your life:

C: Commit- If you commit to making the change no matter how frightening it becomes, you will be able to embrace it and move well beyond it.

H: Help- No law says you have to walk the road of change all by your lonesome. Seek out the advice of those who have taken the journey before you. If you’re afraid, tell someone and let them help you through it.

A: Aim- Figure out exactly where it is you’re trying to get to and lock your dream sights on that.

N: Navigate- It really is as simple as regularly checking to see where you are right now in relation to where you’re trying to get to and adjust your direction. The more often you check your heading, the smaller course corrections you’ll have to make.

G: Goal- Set small attainable goals along the way. If you think of running all 26.2 miles of a marathon, it’s overwhelming. But if you set a goal to run two blocks and, when you reach the corner set a new goal, those small accomplishments will not only get you through to the finish line, but you will have a string of victories to show for it.

E: Exceed- Determine you will go well beyond what is needed to effectively change and aim for that. If you do, the change itself will become only a port of call along the route of your journey.

There are some times when change is not good but most of the time, it really is good. Change can be your friend. It can be exciting, challenging and put zing into your life. So why not embrace it!

Are you facing change? Leave a comment and tell us about it.

Reba J. Hoffman is the founder and president of Magellan Life Coaching ( She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Counseling and is a natural encourager. She serves as Member Care Coach for My Book Therapy and is the author of Dare to Dream, A Writer’s Journal. You can connect with Reba through her motivational blog, Finding True North, or by email at You can also follow her on Twitter at @RebaJHoffman.


  1. Like you, Reba, I love doing different things, but sometimes I don't like getting to that different thing. lol
    Great suggestions for transition.

  2. This is the first post I read this morning -- what a positive way to start the day! And what a great perspective to embrace as we approach 2013!

    1. Thanks for reading Beth. It's been proven that those who embrace change are the ones who are successful in life.

  3. Pat you're so right. We're wired as humans to keeps things from changing rather than embracing change. We have to have the mindset that change is fun and good.

  4. I get easily bored too, Reba, but give me change and sometimes all I do is kick and scream through it. I guess it's because I want to decide what change and when. And I guess that's about control. Thanks for reminding me to go with it, especially since I'd be bored to tears otherwise.