Friday, June 30, 2017

Twelve Promises Every Writer Should Make to Themselves

by Edie Melson @EdieMelson

Don't be your own worst enemy when
it comes to writing!
The writing life isn’t an easy one. It’s one filled with joy, but also has its painful side. With any lifestyle that requires the courage to follow a dream, there are frequent roadblocks and obstacles. 

Many of these are imposed from others. Just announce that you’re following your heart and people seem to come out of the woodwork to tell you why it can’t—and/or shouldn’t—be done. In addition to the naysayers, we can also be responsible for causing our own stumbling blocks.

Today I want to focus on the things we can do—promises we can make to ourselves—that will make things easier.

I Promise . . .

1. I will not hold the past against me. Just like the rest of our lives, our writing journeys will be fraught with poor decisions and missed opportunities. Those aren’t usually things we can go back and change. Instead we need to learn from the past, but not choose to dwell there.

2. I will speak gently and kindly to myself. I don’t know about you, but I’m often my worst critic. I’m the first one to say things I’d never accept from someone else. I’ve been known to berate myself internally with thoughts of
  • I’ll never be able to succeed, I should just give up.
  • I’m a horrible writer, no one wants to read what I write.
  • Everything I write is bad.
3. I will spend some time every week writing something I WANT to write. As we progress in our careers (and sometimes even before) we get caught up in deadlines and commitments. It’s important to always keep the joy of writing somewhere in our lives.

4. I will let go of relationships that keep me from following my dream. This may mean letting go of a vicious critique group, or distancing yourself from a friend who discourages you from writing, or even backing away from someone who takes up too much of your writing time. I’m NOT talking about abandoning people we love (certainly not children and spouses) but about those other relationships that can suck us dry and leave us with little or no energy to write.

5. I will celebrate all the victories—large and small—on my writing journey. All too often we think something is to small to celebrate. Trust me, there’s nothing too small to celebrate. Give yourself a break and take joy in what you’ve accomplished.

6. I will stop comparing my journey to someone else’s. It’s just not possible to win the comparison game. There’s always someone who’s done it better, had it easier, and been more of what you want to become. Your journey and more importantly, your purpose is unique. Quit trying to be someone else. Be yourself and be proud of it.

7. I will keep learning, stretching and growing as a writer. Writers never arrive. There is just too much to learn. It’s always possible—and necessary—to continue to grow.

8. I will reach back and help someone else. Nobody succeeds in a writing vacuum. There are people who have helped you (and are probably helping you now). No matter where you are—rank amateur to seasoned veteran—there’s someone behind you who needs a hand up.

9. At least once a month, I will try something new. You don’t have to like it after you’ve tried it. But it’s so important to try new things. Not just to grow and stretch yourself (like #7) but because you won’t know if you like something until you try it.

10. I will anticipate the future, but live in the moment. Dream and dream big, but realize you must do the work now to fulfill that dream. Small, deliberate steps today will help propel you into living your dream.

11. I will remember that God created me to be a blessing and to be blessed. Our creator doesn't want us to live in defeat. He wants us to fulfill the dreams He placed in our hearts. 

12. I will not give in to the fear. We writers are a fearful, insecure lot. But that fact does NOT have to define our lives. We can choose to live a life or courage.

These are the things I try to remember and the promises I’ve made myself. I’d love to know what you’d add to the list.

Don’t forget to join the conversation!
Blessings,
Edie

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15 comments:

  1. Edie, your gift of encouragement is showing in this post. Thanks for sharing these encouraging words today.
    Encourage on!

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  2. Edie, Thank you for the encouragement. I love #9. Now I need to find something new. Have a blessed weekend.

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    1. Cherrilynn, I see you commenting here all the time and I'll get to meet you in just a few weeks at GPCWC! I'm teaching two of the early bird sessions. Let's try to do a meal together and chat!
      Joy!
      Kathryn Ross

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    2. Cherrilynn and Kathy, I'm so glad you two have connected! Blessings, E

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  3. Great list and much needed read this morning. Sometimes I think I'm the only writer who struggles with thoughts like this. I especially obsess over the thought that no one really cares to read what I write and that I'm not saying anything people don't already know. Then, I come across someone who connects with words I've written and all the struggle is worthwhile.
    Joy!
    Kathy

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    1. Kathy, we all feel like we're the only ones, that's why it's so important that we have each other to rely on! Blessings, E

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  4. Edie,

    What a terrific list of promises for every writer. Thank you. I especially like #7 to always be learning and growing. It's something I try and practice in my own writing life--which has been going on a while and I'm grateful for every day.

    Terry

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    1. Terry, you're a great example of these! Blessings, E

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  5. Number 6, making comparisons to other (usually more seasoned) writers used to be a struggle of mine. Now my issue is the 5th one--minimizing successes. Just realized that the other day.

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    1. Ellen, I'm glad that you've conquered six! Blessings, E

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  6. Great list! I love all 12 promises. I hope I can keep them.

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    1. Ingmar, thank you for sharing your thoughts! Blessings, E

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  7. Great list, Edie. As always, I've learned something new from you. Thanks for sharing with everyone.

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    1. Bruce, thank you for stopping by, Blessings, E

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